Save the drama for yo’ mama

I think that the 20’s are a time to sort out all of the unnecessary drama in your life so that by the time you’re 30, you don’t have to deal with it. I, for one, loathe drama and try to avoid it entirely. But for the past month, it seems, that’s all I’ve been surrounded by. Friend drama, guy drama, work drama. And the worst part is that there seems to be no end in sight. That light at the end of the tunnel is probably just another freight-train full of drama barreling my way.

Sometimes I wonder if people unintentionally create drama to spice up their lives. I know that seems like a silly notion, but here me out. Let’s say you have a girl, we’ll call her Sally, who works a typical 9-5 office job. She shares a two bedroom apartment with her female roommate and a cat. Sally isn’t the most intriguing or pretty girl, but she does have a close group of tight-knit friends and a decent-enough boyfriend. She goes to the gym twice a week, frequents the local neighborhood dives on the weekends, and spends the rest of her free time either at her boyfriend’s loft or watching television. She leads a pretty standard existence. 

Sally has never been met with any real tragedy in her life. She comes from an upper middle-class background, both of her parents are alive and well, and she’s physically and mentally sound. 

After about two years of working at the same job in the same position due to the economy, living in the same apartment with the same girl, dating the same guy, and hanging out with the same people week after week after week, Sally starts becoming antsy. She wants more out of her life but she doesn’t know what changes she should make in order to feel fulfilled. She’s tried new hobbies. She’s tried hanging out with different people, but nothing seems to work. She’s stuck in a rut and has been for years.

Do you think it’s possible for Sally and her close group of friends to suddenly start inventing drama where none existed in the first place? Can boredom lead to drama? Do you think it’s possible for Sally to start antagonizing her friends and vice versa simply because they need some kind of excitement?

Writer Kurt Vonnegut thought that because we grew up surrounded by big dramatic story arcs in books and movies, we think our lives are supposed to be filled with huge ups and downs. So people pretend there is drama where there isn’t any.

What do you think? Do you think people create their own drama or is drama something that just happens?


One response to “Save the drama for yo’ mama

  1. Absolutely. I stumbled onto your blog when I Googled “inventing drama,” haha. I wondered if it was a common thing or just something my friend does. She is addicted to drama so much so that she invents things that we need to work out. For example, she will suddenly disappear… not respond to texts, emails, calls, for a long period of time. After a month or so she will say, “can we talk?” and go through the whole “I’m sorry, life is crazy, how did that make you feel?” Dear Jesus.

    But I don’t think it’s just caused by boredom or monotonous existence. I think part of it is genuine self-centeredness. “I AM THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE AND PEOPLE REVOLVE AROUND ME” complex.

    Move on Galileo.

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